Are you still thinking that your weight problem is all about the food?
Are you still stuck in the cycle of, “when I lose weight, then I’ll be happy”?
Well I can tell you from my personal experience, as well as the past experience of my coaching clients, that that does not work. It does not work to take only physical action to lose weight in an effort to “get happy” while ignoring the real reasons you gained weight in the first place.
In fact, if you are even able to take physical action without struggle and you do end up reaching your goal weight, you will still be unhappy unless you lose weight (and get happy) from the inside out.
It’s Not About The Food
Your weight issue has never been and never will be about the food. Sure, there are practicalities that come into play when dealing with the human body – the human body loves whole, healthy foods, good clean water, and wonderful, good-feeling exercise. The human body will easily shed fat when fed healthy, whole foods with portion control.
However, if you do not have your Inner YOU aligned with the fit, healthy, sexy body you wish to create on the outside, nothing else matters. You won’t even want to feed your body foods that you believe will help it shed the fat if all you do is force yourself to take physical action while ignoring all of the inner stuff that drove you to become what you are today.
It will always be a struggle for you until you get congruent on the inside with what you want on the outside.
Self-Esteem and Your Weight
“Self-esteem, on whatever level, is an intimate experience; it resides in the core of our being. It is what I think and feel about myself, not what someone else thinks or feels about me.” – Nathaniel Branden, How To Raise Your Self-Esteem
When your self-esteem is in the gutter, how easy is it for you to take fun, effortless action to create the fit, healthy, sexy body of your dreams? How could you possibly believe that you deserve to live in a rockin’ body like that when you think so poorly of yourself?
If you do not believe you deserve to live in your ideal body then you will not even be open to learning how to become a deliberate and conscious creator of your reality. You will not feel you deserve to have the body of your dreams when you have low self-esteem and you will not be open to learning a new inner (or outer) lifestyle.
5 Ways Low Self-Esteem Affects Your Weight
Here are just 5 ways low self-esteem negatively affects your weight:
- Obsessions Galore – When you have low self-esteem you just might find yourself obsessed with food and your weight. You have the faulty thinking that “if only I lose weight, then I’ll be happy”. You attempt to control food, the scale, your body, how much and how often you exercise…all of this “stuff” becomes your focal point because you avoid the real problem that created the symptom of the overweight body.
- Something Went Wrong, So I Must Be Wrong! Low self-esteem will contribute to your faulty thinking that YOU must be wrong when things don’t go exactly as you’d have liked them to in your life. You cannot control what other people do – people will come and go in your life, jobs will change, circumstances will alter and the only thing you can control is your own vibration, your inner world. When you have low self-esteem though you think that everything is about you when the truth is, sure, you do have a part to play in your life and you are responsible for your results (absolutely) but just because things go haywire it doesn’t mean that you are now “wrong” as a person.
- Look At ME – I’m FAT! It’s one thing to be fat and to take healthy action to create a fit, healthy sexy body – healthy action that is driven from the belief, expectation, and feeling of deserving that, “YES, I CAN have exactly what I want”. It’s completely another thing to be living with low self-esteem and tying your self-worth to your overweight body, to your fat. The problem is that your low self-esteem played a large part in your creation of your fat body in the first place and low self-esteem will KEEP you in that fat body. The Inner and the Outer Always Match – Always, Always, Always (Abraham-Hicks). When you continue to connect your fat body with your sense of self-worth as a human being, guess what you’ll get?
- You Feel Bad…So You Eat Can you truly feel good about yourself when your sense of self is so low? Do you feel good when you have the continual feeling that you are “never enough”, no matter what the heck you do in your life? And what do you tend to do when you feel bad…do you turn to food, think that “what the heck, I feel awful anyway so why not eat such and such”. How can you feel good when living with low self-esteem, feeling like you just cannot handle the curve balls that life throws at you? If you don’t have the tools in your toolbox to know how to deliberately feel good now you will continue to bang around in your life thinking that controlling food and your weight is the answer.
- A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy The fact is that you cannot maintain an outside that feels good when your inside feels so bad and low self-esteem…well, it feels bad! Low self-esteem is the cornerstone of self-sabotage and self-sabotage is rampant in those who are the “false starters” – you know, you are doing everything perfectly with your food and exercise for a week or two, you get to a certain point either with how long you’ve been sticking to it or you see a certain number on the scale and “suddenly” you stick a wrench in it. Low self-esteem will drive you to sabotage yourself every time and keep you from getting what you say you want – you live a self-fulfilling prophecy that continues to give you the results of failure and disappointment. It cannot be any other way when you continue to live with a foundation of low self-esteem.
The mainstream diet industry sells you that, “once you lose weight, then you’ll be happy”. This doesn’t work and there is the glaring fact that 95% of all dieters fail. The only way you can gain true happiness is by taking action to get happy on the inside so that you honestly, in your heart of hearts, believe, deserve, and expect to live in a fit, healthy, sexy body on the outside.
However, low self-esteem will not allow you to believe you deserve to lose weight and have a fit, healthy, rockin’ body. You will not believe you deserve to learn a better way, to learn how to become a match on the inside to what you want on the outside. You will not believe you deserve to have what you want.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking action to get healthy and fit, in fact if you have high self-esteem you will naturally desire to learn how to do this with ease if you place a high value on your physical fitness. High self-esteem will lead you to take the actions that are congruent with what you live on the inside and when you are “living happy now” with high self-worth on the inside then things will begin to line up for you. You will be on your way to learning how to deliberately create a fit, healthy, sexy body for yourself with effortless action.
In the end though, if you are unhappy on the inside losing weight on the outside will not make you happy. It’s an inside job. Besides that, if you are unhappy on the inside you will be drawn on the outside to whatever keeps you unhappy. How easy is it to take those actions that you believe will create your dream body when you feel so poorly about yourself?
To Make Weight Loss EASY
To make the quickest progress with your self-esteem and your weight loss, it needs to be easy for you to do it. What makes weight loss easy? A weight loss mindset, which is the mindset that my coaching clients get as a result of The Inner Self Diet! You see, your self-esteem and your weight is not going to change unless you take action now with specific, proven steps to change it. The Inner Self Diet has the proven steps. It’s worked before, and it will work again…but only when you do the steps.
To take the first step click here to apply for a complimentary weight loss discovery session.
Also, go ahead and leave a comment below on the points you relate to in this article and how your self-esteem has affected your weight. Feel free to include any action steps you have taken to raise your self-esteem and how that has been working for you to help you create a fit, healthy, sexy body for yourself. F.U.N.!!
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