I’ve been writing quite a bit about your thoughts, because it is my experience that my thoughts are what lead me to either a path of motivation -> action -> accomplishment, or down a path of defeat (no motivation) -> inaction -> regrets. What makes the difference in where I end up? – how I think about my situation in regards to past weight loss and gains.
If I allow myself to get wrapped up in thinking about regaining weight that I had already lost a couple of years ago, I have a very hard time with my motivation to eat well and exercise. Have you had this experience, also?
On the other hand, when I focus on how great I feel when I’m eating healthy, whole foods (rather than processed foods) and how much better I feel after exercising, then I am staying in the moment, instead of regretting the past.
You can either increase your level of motivation by how you think about your current level of fitness, or you can deflate it completely. You can choose to think about the possibilities, your goals, and where you want to end up, or you can think about what you “did to yourself” to gain weight, which might only serve to bring you down.
By choosing to focus on the positive of your current level of health and fitness (for example: there is room for improvement!), rather than berating yourself for gaining weight, you will not only feel better now, but also have an easier time motivating yourself to take healthy action.
It doesn’t make any difference whether what you face is something that affects your work, your personal relationships, your sense of security, your appraisal of self-worth, or your appearance–the way you think about your situation largely determines whether you will do anything about it and what you will do. ~ Dr. Arthur Freeman (10 Dumbest Mistakes Smart People Make and How To Avoid Them)